Every point in this article hit home for me, especially these points about myself.
- Dependency. An intense desire for a sense of belonging, approval, acceptance and a fear of being alone.
- Unassertiveness. Non-confrontational, people-pleasers who are reluctant to question authority.
- Gullibility. A willingness to believe what another person says without critically thinking it through or challenging it.
- Naive Idealism. The belief that everyone is good, has some redeeming quality or can change for the better.
- Desire for Spiritual Meaning. The belief that life has a “higher purpose” or that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes people are just abusive jerks and there’s no deeper meaning attached to it, but good targets keep searching for it despite all evidence to the contrary.
It's not about them. It's about us.
wow, yea, totally see a lot of that in my exs also. Uhm, this was a great link, thank you.
ReplyDeleteFour years later after this was written I've seen myself get sucked in exactly the same way....... Set ya up and knock ya down with a loud CRASH. Then tell you it was all your fault and she's the victim
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