Few Excellent Lectures on Borderline Personality Disorders

I found a few lectures on BPD that I found quite good

Can be found HERE and HERE

There are also a few others if you scroll under "People who listened to this also liked..."

A Very Good Show about BPD and Co-Dependency

I've been watching this show lately called Intervention

You can find the link to the first part of an episode by clicking on the name.

I've been watching several episodes and have noticed the same co-dependent traits in the enablers that I've seen within myself.

A lot of things have jumped out to me from watching this show. A majority of the people with problems are Bipolar or have Borderline Personality Disorder. I've seen the same pattern of behavior that I saw in my ex.

1. Destructive chemical addictions. (primarily alcohol, but marajuana, pills, cocaine as well)

2. Self destructive behaviors.

3. Violent temper

4. Manipulation. Inappropriate anger/Rages.

5. Sexual promiscuity.

You can clearly see them masking the inner pain. Everything is a result of extreme inner turmoil and pain. The real lesson from this show to me though, are the enablers.

I'm an enabler. I just want to placate and do anything possible to make the person "happy". If I just give in. Sacrifice myself. Sacrifice my boundaries, everything will be fine. It's can be so hard to just say "no". If you really want to help the person you love with BPD you need to learn to say "No". Enabling them will just perpetuate the behavior.